Relationships & Spirituality question: Hell hath no fury...? ?

I don't think I would hate him so much as feel sorry for him. I am not denying that he had any feelings for you, but it sounds like he has much more of a need to control people than to love. He decided he wanted you, and you didn't come when he told you to, so you are cast off and he will find someone who will bend to his will. Until he can get past that in himself, his relationships are doomed to be emotionally abusive and eventually fail. Yes, I would take pity on him and the people he will eventually lure into a controlling relationship. You should actually be very grateful to him for showing you who he truly was before you got involved. Forgive him, because he was not targeting you. He feels out of control with himself and wants to exude control over others to make up for it.